People seek therapy because they want to change something. It might be the way they feel or the way they behave; it might be how they believe other people see them, or how they see themselves. It might be the things they think about or dwell upon, or the way they get on with others. Whatever it is, individual therapy gives them a space to talk about what it is they want to change and learn how to bring that change about. A space that is safe, confidential and non-judgemental.
The therapist is your partner on your journey towards change. Someone you can discuss your direction with; a second pair of eyes to see things from a different perspective. Your therapist is also a highly-trained professional who can provide you with the insights to make sense of your experience and the tools to deal with whatever the future may bring.
In a safe environment, in the presence of a compassionate, non-judgemental facilitator, couples are able to address the issues they may have found impossible to talk about in a one-to-one setting with their partner. The issues may be external: infidelity, infertility, financial, substance abuse, problems with in-laws or the extended family, or they may be relational: communication problems, feeling unseen or undervalued, boredom or a lack of excitement, sexual dissatisfaction or diminished attraction. And of course, relational problems may have been the cause of the external ones, and vice versa.
We will identify where the problems lie, what are the aims and wishes that each partner has for the relationship, and we’ll develop a strategy to achieve those aims. This often involves learning new skills of observation, and listening and expressing needs openly, honestly and directly.
At the heart of group therapy is the idea that human beings are fundamentally social beings, whose lives are inextricably linked with others. Most of the issues we face as individuals (such as stress, anxiety, low self-esteem, relationship problems, family difficulties, loneliness and loss) occur in a social context, which makes a group the natural setting in which to offer therapy.
In the safe and supportive atmosphere of the group, members can address a wide range of personal issues. It can also be very therapeutic to see oneself through the eyes of others and to participate in the therapy of other group members.